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People-pleasing is often less about wanting to make others happy, and more about trying to prevent disconnection.

If you're using boundaries to control other people's behavior, it's not a boundary. It's manipulation.

The work here isn’t convincing yourself that everyone likes you. It’s helping your system update the belief that connection is fragile, conditional, or always about to be withdrawn.

Many people come to therapy feeling stuck in patterns they cannot seem to change. They want to feel connected, grounded, and present, yet their nervous system feels like it learned a whole different set of rules in childhood. This is where the NeuroAffective Relational Model, or NARM, can be incredibly helpful. NARM is a mind-body approach for working with complex and developmental trauma. It focuses on how early relational experiences shaped the way we manage emotions, stay

After you've experienced relational abuse, it might sound nearly impossible to connect authentically with someone new. Keep in mind that consent, connection, and boundaries are a living thing. They can always change. It's up to you to adjust as needed. Trust yourself to try out a new way of relating to people that won't overwhelm you! Tip #1 Pause and notice what's happening in your body Connection begins internally. As we reconnect with our sensations, feelings, and needs,

Tips from a trauma therapist who's been there. One of the biggest fears (if not the biggest fear) people have when getting divorced is what the impact will be on the children. In fact, that’s what keeps a lot of people staying in their marriage longer than they otherwise would: the children. Here are 5 practical things I do to minimize the traumatic impact on my children: Tip #1 - I don’t make my emotions about the divorce their responsibility. When my kids come back from th